What are some good communication techniques to use with teenagers?

I really wish it was easy to talk to my teenager but it seems the more I do the worse it gets. I try to listen and give advice but she ends up doing the opposite of what I tell her at least its been the trend over the last two months. Yeah we can try therapy and anti-depressants but I would like to try something else first.What are some good communication techniques to use with teenagers?
Always be honest. They have friends/internet/etc. that they will immediately go to to see if you are telling the truth about the topic. Tell them that you have complete unconditional love for them and you have their best interests in mind but you will not condone all of their behavior or actions. Pick your battles; you do not want the communication to end between you and your teenager(s). Even if what they are doing is very bad in your judgement you cannot lose the communication. If you do, you truly have no idea what they are doing and that is much worse. Again, unconditional love, but that does not mean condoning or not commenting on their poor behavior/life choiees. Remember, their friends are the most powerful assets and/or liabilities during this time of development.What are some good communication techniques to use with teenagers?
JUST TACKLE THE THINGS CAREFULLY AND IN LOVING WAYS.
Good for you for listening to your daughter. Keep doing it. Two months is not a vast amount of time, though. Be patient and keep listening.
dont give advice. leave her alone for a little while actualy. she'll probaby want to alteast tell you what her problem is at that ppoint.....dont try anti depressents. she'll probaby hate you for that. and feel worse.





now, i am a teenager. i'm 13. but i can see how you ACTUALY care. I would want my mom to talk. but she wont. Maybe your daughter feels your smothering her.
try to be a gud frnd of her first..


try spending some gud time wid her.. like goin some place out which she likes(eg-for a movie or sth u will ve to find tat out )





avoid giving too many advices for some time(but if atall tats needed let her dad do tat job for a while)


give her some respect(obviously only to the extent its needed )


ask for her opinion on some important matters (see how she reacts to tat..cuz some people dont like to be asked too many questions.. so go forward wid this only if she takes inerest in giving her opinion )..





avoid askin too many personal questions though (i mean give her some space atleast for some time now.. cuz u r sayin tat she is takin things in opposite way of wat u say from last 2 months) so give her some time.. but always keep an eye on her..





it may take some time so ve patience.. be as loving n caring as u r .. n things will surely get better soon





its not going to be easy for sure.. u would need a lot of patience..if u make one mistake the wheel will go back to where it started from.. so control ur anger n hold up ur advices as mother for a lil while ..let her dad do tat thing





once u feel she has come lil closer to u then u can talk to her(talkin to her now is all useless.. u ve waited for 2 months ..see if u can wait for another few days ).. try to understand her .. may be she is stressed up wid some other prob which is showin up in ur relation.. but dont hurry up in askin tat to her.. u will kno wen to ask .. make her feel comfortable wid u first..





hey i would like to add one more thing here.. if atall nothing works out ur way then u can use a lil bit of senti too.. i mean sit wid her.. jus u 2 alone.. n tell her tat u tried talkin to her n undersatnd her but failed.. n tat u r feeling real bad for tat.. (hope u r getting my point)


but use it only after everything fails..


k.. hope things get better for u soon ..gud luck
Have a ';conversation'; with them. Don't dictate. Ask questions and show genuine interest. Don't do all the talking and do more listening. Remember, teens don't like to be told what to do. So you need to give them advice that doesn't sound like advice... If you can get them to come up with the answers themselves by asking what they think is reasonable in a situation, sometimes they'll surprise you.





Also, remember, it's their job to test the waters so to speak at their age. Sometimes they need to make their own mistakes. So, within reason, let them find out for themselves. But don't gloat when they make a mistake.





The best you can do is show them right and wrong and leave the rest to them. You can't stop them from doing some things. They'll just do it behind your back. Teach them that there are always choices in life and that it's important to make good choices. And that there are consequences to poor choices.





I hope this helps.